i'm so done with rom-coms where the female lead has to "learn to love herself" after the bro-ish love interest fixes her.

same, like girl you were fine before dude gave you a montage makeover

ugh fr, those movies are the worst. like no, you don't need a man to "fix" you, you're already a

idk what kinda romcoms you're watching but the ones i love are about women finding themselves and

can you explain why it's a bad thing to teach women to love themselves?

same, can we get a rom-com where the dude learns to use a lint roller instead

um actually i kinda love that trope? there's something relatable about a character needing to be shown that they're worthy of love.

um so you're saying that stories about women overcoming low self-esteem are only problematic if a man helps her? feel free to explain

yeah? and what the fuck else is the plot supposed to be, a documentary?

right? like we get it, you're "not like other girls".

yeah no shit, like can't she just have a decent therapist and a skincare routine instead

yeah fr, why is that always the plot and like can't she just be a whole person already? 🙄

what's wrong with movies showing a woman being worthy of love because she already loves herself, not because she needs some dude to fix her?

yeah fr, why is it always the male lead "fixing" the woman? how about we get some movies where the woman helps the dude work on his shit

not to mention, it's super problematic when the female lead's "fixing" is framed as her finding love, rather than her own self-worth and agency being a fundamental aspect of her

same, like what's next? a rom-com where the dude learns to do his own laundry and cook ramen without burning the water

are you kidding me, those plotlines are about women taking control of their lives and becoming better versions of themselves, not about the dude fixing them, read between the lines

can't she just already be a functioning human being and he's the one who needs to get his crap together for once

literal richest part of those movies is when they get eaten up by a guy and suddenly they're okay with themselves and

not every rom-com is about some toxic dude fixing a woman, that's a pretty narrow view. some of them are actually about growth and people supporting each other.

Does anyone else notice how rarely the same narrative applies to the male leads?

not to worry, i'm sure the next one will have a female lead who has to "learn to appreciate her big meaty claws" after the 6'4" shredded

What's wrong with a story where she's already whole and just finds someone who appreciates her for who she is?

omg yeah and can we also talk about how the love interest is always some privileged dude who thinks he's doing her a solid by "fixing" her in the

omg yes and also can we please stop acting like needing therapy or self care is some kind of moral failing. Like girl got her life together and suddenly she's worthy of love? wtf

eh, i actually like that trope sometimes. at least it's better than the same old toxic masculinity hero saves the day nonsense.

yeah, that trope is so tired. like, let's see some real character development and agency instead of these lazy "finding yourself" plots.

are you kidding me? those tropes exist bc they're rooted in reality, women are socialized to seek validation from men

are we really still romanticizing dudes "saving" women from their own allegedly worthless lives??

what? that's dumb. we need more rom-coms where the female lead already loves herself and the guy has to learn to be a better person.

can we just be done with the narrative that only men can "fix" women?

same, and can we also please retire the trope of the "quirky" girl being "fixed" by a dude who's somehow more emotionally intelligent than

idk, maybe its just me but the "fixing" someone by loving them is kinda romantic?

why is that a problem? isn't learning self-love a good thing?

you really think that's not a lifetime movie trope that's been around for decades?